IN every family, there will be times when everyone needs to work together to achieve a certain objective. Unfortunately, due to time constraints, sometimes it’s easier and faster to make decisions on the other members’ behalf, especially when it comes to the little ones. We conveniently brush aside the need to hear their input, let alone consider their needs.
It’s very unwise to do this on a regular basis. Imagine the many opportunities lost to engage with the little ones, to experience true collaboration and empowerment with them. There’s an African proverb that says: “If you want to go fast, go alone. But if you want to go far, go together.”
Going at it alone is indeed fast because you don’t need to consult anyone nor bother about anyone except yourself. It also can be convenient because all decisions can be made quickly. In addition, fast is fun, at least for a while.
But how far can we go when parents do everything by themselves without involving the rest of the family? What are the areas that badly need collaboration to achieve a sustainable solution?
Let’s explore these questions in the typical family scenario.
MAKING BIG DECISIONS
Every once in a while, a family needs to make a major decision. Some examples include choosing a vacation spot or selecting a theme for a birthday party. What will happen if only one person makes that decision? If he’s lucky, the others wouldn’t mind as much. Maybe he would even get away with it once or twice. But in the long run, someone may not be happy with the decision. And when that happens, they will be less eager to cooperate.
Taking that scenario to another level, what do you think would be the effect of creating house rules without consulting the rest? If your home is a country, you would be a dictator. I don’t think there’ll be much cooperation from your subjects. Sure, they’d follow and obey the rules for fear of being reprimanded, but deep down there may be anger or even resentment. That definitely does not create a happy and harmonious home.
CARRYING THE BURDEN
So what should we do to achieve better results? Parents today face unprecedented tasks at home, especially since usually both are working full-time. The chores never stop; instead, they get worse as the children grow older. There is laundry to be done, classes to attend, and many other things in between. No one can handle these alone without losing their minds.
There are many ways a family can work together to spread the load. Fathers can set an example by helping in the kitchen or around the house. Children also must be taught to take on basic responsibilities as early as possible.
The list is endless. The opportunities are plentiful. You just have to be a little creative in distributing work fairly. Don’t expect perfection but completion. Appreciate one another’s efforts to make it happen.
At the end of the day, when a family is able to go it together, they can go very far. One can do a lot by himself but we can do the impossible with great teamwork.
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